A woman once enumerated her husband’s faults to a divorce court judge. She simply couldn’t live with “that man” one day more, she said. On and on she went.
Finally she paused to catch her breath, and the judge asked, “Well, why did you marry him in the first place? You must have liked something about him then. What was it?”
“Well,” the wife said, “he was a good man, a hard worker, and a faithful provider. He was also kind to children, and he was loyal.”
“Isn’t he still all those things?” asked the judge.
“Well, yes,” the wife replied in a huff, “but…” And she started to repeat her grievances. “He’s terrible! He throws his clothes on the floor. He never puts anything away. He’s always late for dinner. He’s hard to get up in the morning. He picks his nose in public. He fusses if I burn the toast…” All were relatively insignificant offenses.
“Very well then,” said the judge. “Here’s my preliminary ruling: Go home and think about those good qualities for which you first loved him, and try not to think about the things he does that peeve you. If after 30 days you still want the divorce, come back.”
The judge never saw the woman again.