Keys to Good Communication

Keys to Good Communication

Good communication with almost anyone–your husband or wife, boss, coworkers, children, parents, or friends–depends on a few basic principles of people handling. Learn these, and you will be well on the way to happy, productive relationships.

Honesty. Good communication is built on mutual respect, and respect depends on honesty. If you want to get off on the right foot with others, be honest and straightforward from the start.

Tact. It’s important to be honest, but it’s also important to be loving and considerate in your presentation, especially with people who are naturally sensitive or when the subject could be sensitive.

Wisdom. Wisdom is what helps you be tactful. You can get wisdom through experience, or you can get it by asking God for it. He’s promised it to you in the Bible, in James 1:5, if you ask Him for it.

Love. When people feel loved or cared for, it puts everything else in proper perspective. You may not do or say everything right, but if others see that you are motivated by love, little problems or misunderstandings won’t become big ones.

Prayerfulness. A silent mental prayer is good in any situation, but sometimes praying together and out loud can help things click between you and in the spiritual realm like nothing else. Praying together creates a peaceful atmosphere and inspires unity, and when you acknowledge that you need the Lord’s thoughts and help, He’s happy to give them.

Positiveness. Being upbeat usually elicits a positive response. Encouragement and sincere compliments are always appreciated.

Initiative. Fear of being misunderstood or rejected often holds both parties back. Taking the first step expresses faith in the other person, which usually helps him or her overcome any reservations.

Timing. Knowing when to say something is often as important as knowing what to say. “A wise man’s heart discerns both time and judgment” (Ecclesiastes 8:5).

Sensitivity. It’s not good to be so sensitive to your own needs that your feelings are easily hurt, but it is good to be sensitive to others’ likes and dislikes, needs, and moods.

Open-Mindedness. People’s opinions and the way they approach problems are as different as the people themselves. Turning off your thoughts and being quiet long enough to let others express their feelings conveys respect and fosters positive, fruitful exchanges. People will be much more at ease with you and more likely to turn to you for advice if they know you will be open to what they have to say, even if you don’t agree.

Empathy. Put yourself in the other person’s position and try to understand the feelings that are behind what he or she is saying.

Patience. It’s sometimes hard to listen to what others have to say without interrupting, trying to hurry them along, or finishing their sentences for them, but it’s a way of showing love and respect, which pay off.

A Sense of Humor. A little laughter can be just the thing to keep potentially difficult exchanges from getting too intense. Lighten up!

Approachability. The dictionary defines approachability as “invitingly friendly; easy to talk to.” When someone knows you will take time for him or her, you’ve won a friend.

Clarity. There would be a lot fewer misunderstandings between people if they didn’t beat around the bush or rely so much on hints. Don’t leave others guessing; say what you mean. If you’re not sure they understand your point, ask them.

Effort. Sometimes communicating is plain hard work–but the rewards are worth it!

Consistency. People who communicate regularly understand each other better and are more likely to be able to work through problems when they come up.

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3 Comments

  1. My Info Mike Sherman
    November 23, 2013, 12:15 am   /  Reply

    Marriage is a beautiful part of life and I still believe that God has that special someone for everyone who believes in having marriage in their life.

  2. October 14, 2015, 6:02 am   /  Reply

    Communication with people who do not walk in the light of The Lord’s Holy Spirit as we who love the Lord do….can be extremely challenging. I am in such a situation and unfortunately I am basically dependent on caregivers & at the mercy of the one’s in charge of making decisions in my plan of care. As I attemt to write these words…God’s Spirit is working out the negative thoughts, worry & concerns that keep trying to creep back in my mind & are truly trying to steal my joy. Jesus holds all the Power!! I call on His precious name right now…& protected by the blood He shed for us on Calvery, I claim authority over any and all attempts of the enemy or his evil doers to attack me or my family in anyway to try to cause us harm. In the name of Jesus I command them to be gone ..to flee…to loose us or any strongholds and be gone…leave us alone
    I pray for the Lord to forgive me of any wrongdoings..I repent and only want to serve you and support your will in my familys life. I trust u Creator to provide for our need for a new home without so many stairs so I can go back to raise my family that u blessed me to take ❤ care of. You are my strength…my hope….my all. Without you I am nothing, I give you all the glory & praise. Let it be Lord. Amen – Tawny

  3. CJL BERNARD
    September 19, 2016, 9:25 am   /  Reply

    God bless us today.
    We can see God from your meth ours view.
    Love one another as Jesus loves us.

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