Friendship, marriage, children, travels, lessons, love and happiness!

Friendship, marriage, children, travels, lessons, love and happiness!

By Katie Roselle

Dan and I have been married for over 30 years. We met when I was 18 and Dan 19, and we’d both just begun what would become lifetime careers as Christian volunteers with The Family. I was a full-time teacher for 17 preschoolers at the time. Completely immersed in my work with the children, I hadn’t given much thought to marriage.

As soon as I got to know Dan, I knew he was the man I wanted to marry!

Then Dan volunteered to drive the children on Sunday outings. We lived quite far from the city, so I would read the Bible to him on the long drive. When it got too dark to read on the way home, we would sing. As our friendship grew, so did our respect for each other. A mutual love for the Lord and His Word brought us together and has kept us together all these years.

As soon as I got to know Dan, I knew he was the man I wanted to marry! I was attracted to him because of his enthusiasm and friendly manner, and because of all of the attention he showed to the children. He was very generous and seemed to always be giving to others.

Several months later, I relocated in another state where a new school was opening, while Dan stayed back. I had told God (but not Dan) that Dan was the one I wanted to marry; suddenly I didn’t know if I would ever see him again.

Three months later, on Christmas Day, Dan came to where I was. We began working together again, helped set up the school, and finally talked about getting married. When we told our friends, they seemed to heave a collective sigh of relief and said, “Finally!”

The night before our wedding, we stayed up all night working on classrooms for the new school. While we took a nap the next morning, the children made cards to surprise us. One of the most outstanding things about our wedding turned out to be a message from the Lord that one of our friends received for us, in which He said He had called us to serve Him together in these Last Days. That prophecy has since helped us through many troubles and difficulties.

 

Heartbreaks and Healings

Then we hit some hard times. When I became pregnant for the first time, I didn’t know how to take care of myself, so I overworked myself and practically stopped eating when I had morning sickness. Our first baby was born in the sixth month of pregnancy and didn’t survive–a very difficult experience for such a young couple!

Shortly thereafter, we prayed about where the Lord wanted us next. As we learned more about hearing from God together and finding His will, opportunity knocked. God led us to move to Latin America, where we helped set up several small schools for the children of other Christian workers like ourselves.

We found that success in marriage depends largely on how much each partner is willing to give to make his or her spouse happy

I became pregnant again, and again our hearts were broken when the twins I was carrying were also born too early and passed on to be with the Lord. During these very difficult times, only the Lord and our faith in Him kept our marriage together. We learned to not give up, and also to not take the children that surrounded us for granted; each little life was a miracle.

In time the Lord blessed us with a baby who stayed here with us. I needed extra strength and faith during that pregnancy, and God’s Word became my greatest resource. I learned to live closer to Him, and He saw me through. Now Dan and I have seven wonderful children on Earth, and three in Heaven. The Lord has helped us through a lot!

 

Investing in a Marriage

We found that success in marriage depends largely on how much each partner is willing to give to make his or her spouse happy. We also found that problems entered in when pressures and responsibilities grew and we didn’t make opportunities to keep up our communication. The work was inevitable, but we finally realized that we needed to organize our days to include special times together, to communicate and show that we cared about and appreciated one another.

Some things that helped us greatly were reserving an evening to go out together, to talk and pray and relax together; saying words of appreciation during “ordinary” days and activities; finding little things the other liked and doing them; banning discussions of the business of the day from bed, in favor of deeper and more intimate conversations; agreeing to talk out differences as they came up; helping each other see and correct mistakes we had made, while remaining respectful and loving.

Dan and I continue to work and travel together in our ministry for the Lord, but besides being married and working together, we’re very good friends. It’s taken a lot of love and good hard work on both sides, but the Lord has helped us to nurture and enjoy a very special and loving relationship–and that, of course, makes us love Him all the more!

There is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer. No disease that enough love will not heal. No door that enough love will not open. No gulf that enough love will not bridge. No wall that enough love will not throw down. No sin that enough love will not redeem. It makes no difference how deeply seated may be the trouble, how hopeless the outlook, how muddled the tangle, how great the mistake. Sufficient love will dissolve it all. — Emmett Fox

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